I know, who isn’t tired?

I see a lot of single moms by choice in Facebook groups afraid to complain because they chose this life. I see moms in general afraid to complain.

Fuck that.

Yes, we chose this life, we desperately wanted our kids, and we chose to do this shit solo.

But that doesn’t negate the fact that this shit is HARD, and fucking exhausting whether you have a partner or not. Sometimes, yes, I wish I had a partner to help shoulder the stress, but that’s not my life.

Sometimes it’s harder because you have a partner who adds to the stress or might as well not be there because they don’t fucking pull their weight.

I have no partner to help carry the weight. My main village lives 4 hours away. If I want a break, I have to pay a babysitter. Which is a burden in itself due to cost. It’s stressful and exhausting.

Now, if reading that makes you think, or want to comment, “suck it up, that’s motherhood,” or some shit along those lines. DON’T. I don’t fucking care.

Women carry the weight of the world while managing jobs, running companies, raising children, and so much more. The notion that you can’t voice your complaints about it is absolute nonsense. Not speaking out leads to years of unnecessary stress and mental health issues for women because they lack an outlet for their experiences.

We need an outlet, whether it’s a friend, family, therapist, etc. You are not required to keep things in and let them fester inside of you. I personally refuse to do that. I utilize TalkSpace for therapy because it works well around my schedule being able to message whenever I need to and getting the thoughts out of my brain.

My schedule doesn’t allow for the focus on my physical health like I used to have, and I miss that so much. I know that that would be a huge help to the mental, but it’s just not doable right now.

I don’t know the point of this one other than getting the words out there, and maybe finding people who feel the same, or to know they’re not alone.

I’d love to hear how you deal with the stress, and any self-care things you implement to help your mental health! Drop some comments.